H is adament that his feelings will not change as he has felt this way for so long.
Most are adamant on their wedding day they will never leave; his feelings have changed and thus they can change again.
He's reading straight from the script...Many/most say this.
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how do I continue to DB and work on myself at the same time, whilst knowing he will be moving out?
DB'ing IS working on yourself, they are not in conflict.
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We did go for an initial C session together, but he now refuses to go as he didn't like it! I have considered going on my own, but I dont want to work at ending the relationship.
Then why would you go to a counselor that would promote you to work on ending you reltaionship? Find a Pro-marriage counselor. Screen the counselors by telling them what it is you want and that you are seeking someone who will support that.
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If I apply DB, won't he just think i'm burying my head in the sand again?
He may think whatever he can that is negative. So do what feels right for you...because nothing you do will make them happy or change their minds. He wants to be gone, and once he's gone he may want to be home. You give him space and he wants you available, if you are available he will feel smothered...
Focus on yourself. So he hasn't told you what he doesn't like...or said there are issues. What do you want to change about yourself?
He may leave. He may stay. Prepare for all scenarios. Those who leave can return.
The most important thing for you to do is focus on you. Keep up with the yoga, this promotes self-focus and peace.
