Now what? Wait it out?

[lester]

She will fall when you stop holding the string. Let go of the kite and it will fall! Whether it falls in your yard or not feelings have a tendency not to last too long. I mean if I was still mad over my brother taking my basketball 12 years ago you would think me strange. Same with affairs and infatuation the feelings do fade. What keeps the A going is our actions and their stubbornness and you probably know if your wife is or not. Mine is... she denies it but she is.

On your second point, they all say that. What they mean is they are bored and want excitement. Experience has taught me most people who make a point of saying that they’re independent means that they aren’t – why else seek validation that they are?

Looking all sad and depressed won’t make you more appealing. Heck even if you GAL she may not see it as a reason to come back. The most important point of DB is not to win them back because you CAN’T. So drop that from your mind – they have to CHOOSE you there is no action, technique or book that you can read or do that will make them choose you. The only thing you can do is to live like you were dying (sorry for the lame country reference). This is to insulate YOU and to help YOUR frame of mind. Sitting there wishing her back won’t make YOU feel better or think more clearly. GAL and AS IF are to help you be more confident. Now confidence is attractive, why else would total A-holes get all the girls when they say they want a “soulmate”? Doesn’t jive does it? It’s because women think they know what they want be actually describe what they shun. Not saying be an A-hole but use the books to build your confidence cuz trust me in the end you may or not want her back. But that is the end game… get to a point where you are now the one choosing whether to take her back or not.