Well, I have not seen DD for three days. W told me she was going to sleep over her friends house on Sun night, and if it was alright to have DD sleep over on Sun night as well. I said it was okay.
Well, it is Tuesday night, I got home a few minutes ago from work (11:20pm) and the house is empty. I don't know why my W keeps doing these things. I have not called her, and will not show her how annoyed I am.
I am trying to not let anything get to me, but with kids it is so hard. W seems to be burning the candle at both ends, and the only normality DD has is with me. But whenever I try to discuss things, we end up arguing.
I just don't think my W has it in her to get through her MLC, and her R with OM just seems to be getting stronger. It sort of comes in waves, if you know what I mean.
And yes #9 is the reason I haven't walked yet. I want to know I have done everything I could before giving up. But those other points are totally valid as well.
Sorry you haven't seen DD. She'll be thrilled to see you. W probably loses track of time when with her (hopefully not doing it to annoy you).
Waves are awful. They are so confused and torn. Its hard to watch, but its hard to be the BS as well. I feel for you.
My W and DD have slept over at her friends house all three nights (Sun, Mon and tonight).
DD is only 7, and I think the stability of home is so important. I just don't understand what is going through W's head. She was so responsible for so long, and now she is a completely different person. A 36 year old going on 16.
Its so hard to watch. My H is totally not acting his age, he is 35 and thinks he is 21 all over again. YUCK. When he goes to bars, I wonder if people see through him and realize he is an old man.
When do you get to see DD? Today I hope. And yes, stability is the key. When we talk of separation, I always push that the kids should be at home as much as possible, and I think they should sleep here every single night. If that means H has to drive 'home' at 1am, so be it. He is making this choice to possibly leave.
I work this afternoon, through to late evening. W has kickboxing tonight, and I have a feeling she and DD will sleep over friends place again (W is 36 and her best friend is 24, best friends mother is overseas for 2 weeks so W is spending time at her place, like a teenage sleep over).
So I reckon I won't see DD until Thursday afternoon. I suppose it is preparing me for the divorce and shared custody.
H tooks kids for awhile both days this weekend and the house was so quiet. I calmly realized that like you, this might be an every week sort of feeling. Sad, really. We might be losing our spouses, but also precious time with our kids. Not fair. Our kids should have access to both parents at any time.
Just got home from work, its 11:13pm, W and DD are not home again. Looks like W is staying at friends house again. Have not seen them since Sunday day (its Wed night).
I have refrained from ringing her to find out WTF she is doing?
She sent me a txt today, wanting to know "Where r u at" in regards to my solicitor and the consent orders she wanted me to sign. I haven't responded yet.
This rush to get these papers signed is so silly, considering it will take several months to sell our home. Why the rush?
I just don't know why she is doing half the things she does. But I will not stray from my path of indifference to what she is doing. She has tried to push my buttons for a few weeks now, with no joy. Maybe this is another test? Who knows.
I have always "bitten" when baited, I may go for a few weeks, then wham, she does something to tick me off. No more.
At least I am getting a decent nights sleep, being alone in the house.
It would be fine if she had been gone this long without your DD, but this is awful for you. I am glad you are getting sleep though. I hope you get to see her soon.
I totally know what you mean about keeping the cool until you boil over. So hard to contain. Good job.
