Ian once you interalize she is trying to take your children and your money you will forget about "protecting her." You need not attempt to protect her. You need to protect yourself. You need to understand this is a paradigm shift for you and one you must accept and move forward. Good luck.
Me 45 WAW 46 Married 23yrs D22 S18 D12 W moved out 1/12/07 Divorce Final 2/06/08