I know this may be premature but need advice

[cpolk]

Dis,
Your situation reminds me of mine...a lot. My W and I have been to the depths of Hell and are I think on the back side. Everything went downhill quickly following my recent return from Iraq. What the end result will be I don't know but things are feeling pretty good right now. Here's what has worked for me; for nearly a month now.

Essentialy somewhere between the 180 and LRT was what I went with. The hardest thing for me was 'releasing her'; that is not holding her back. To come to the realization that you (she) can go and it'll hurt but I'll be ok. Then I ceased any communication with her outside of the home unless she initiated. After about a week of this she started calling and texting periodically. Since I've been able to get a couple hugs accompanied by pecks on the cheek initiated by her. For us the key was giving her space. Though things are much better now (on a 1-10 scale I'd say 6/7 up from a 2) the space is still vital. She rarely initiates touch but we've not been recovering successfully for very long.

I have hope for retrovaille but I'm not sure we'll attend until sometime early next year at the earliest. As she works through her own feelings and issues. I find that patience is a vital necessity but very difficult to exhibit.

I hope this helps; I've been reading a lot of these post here but this is the first I've ever put anything out.