Well you can do this, nothing wrong with it, but don’t expect anyone you meet while having casual sex to be a serious partner. Men might have sex easily with lots of women, but when they find the “one,” they might hold off of sex because they the man don’t want to come across as too easy (well, this happens some of the time). He wants the woman to respect him and he wants to respect her.
What I am saying is go have fun. But don’t delude yourself into thinking this new freedom somehow defines how you should act with a serious partner. Casual sex and a LTR are two separate things. Don’t let the casual sex define who you are and spoil your chances for a LTR. Once you’ve had your fun, then you will need to impose some self discipline, as Corri recommended, if you ever hope to find the “one.”
Meh to that. Not that I disagree that a sizable majority of men function just as you describe, but this whole "play hard to get so he won't think you're loose" thing makes both me and my cat want to scratch. All it really says is "I'm willing to play games to conform to a certain standard you have in your head that means nothing with regards to the way I'll act after we're married". Just because a woman has sex with you on the first or second date doesn't mean she'll frak the mailman after you've married her. Nor does it mean she won't, just because you had to wait a year before she "succumbed".
Mojo likes sex, and didn't get much during her marriage, yet she didn't seek it elsewhere even once before she and her stbx mutually called it quits. That's a pretty solid track record. There will be men who will be mature enough to deal with both the fact that she likes sex and that, in a committed relationship, she won't seek it elsewhere.
It won't be someone with a lot of insecurities, but then we already knew that.
