I'll admit that thoughts of the OW still pop into my head on a regular basis but now that H and I have pretty much gotten everything out between us - we have an agreement to not bring it up unless it's something important. I'm not saying we don't bring it up at all, it's just that we don't continue to constantly bring it up. I don't ask him if he's thinking about her or if he misses her, he doesn't talk about their time together.
Bringing up the issue only hurts both of us when we're working on moving on with our R and our lives and get what happened behind us - I think we're both doing a good job on that. But we are both working on it. I know I put a lot of effort into it.
