I bit my tongue on asking H how he felt about the OW during the three months when I THOUGHT they were broken up. Am I ever glad I did. I actually expected that he would have said he DID miss her and think about her, that would have been natural in my mind.
But since he WAS still in contact and lying about it, who knows what he would have said!
This time HE'S the one who has assured me that he doesn't miss her or long for her. I'm sure it helps that she turned out to be a controlling black-mailer .
And hey, "sometimes" is a lot better than "constantly"!
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