ROOT, I'll have to remember that line. I don't think it would work now (he still sees me as too straight of an arrow ) But, it would be funny to see his face if I acted really serious about it!! haha!!
I think H is showing signs of depression. Disgusted with himself - yet, wont' stop contact w/ow - what does that tell ya'?? Talk about contradictions!
Well woman, you need to bend a bit. Wouldn't you say OW is a bent arrow? When my husband started to become alarmed with my words or *behavior* I'd say... but isn't that what you find attractive? (Referring to OW). Obviously she has an open marriage. Why not? Then of course he started defending the ideas of marriage to me!!! Hey buddy, get your ideas sraight here!!!
Shame pulling him further into the relationship. That's something I've read about. I think there may be something about that in "Not 'Just Friends.'"
Well, give him space and you live your life happily... and non-dependent on anyone else for that happiness.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Olive, I'm with root on the bending. You need to show him that the same old Olive doesn't exist. This is the new Olive. The one that is mysterious. Even if you are putting on a front, I think you need to try it. He needs to wonder.
My XH made multiple comments about the way I dressed during our separation. I lost a lot of weight, so I had to buy a whole new wardrobe. I'm I size 2 now and I'm going to show it off. I always thought the hotter I looked the crazier he looked for leaving me and what's wrong with that. I told some of my friends that I was going for the WTH is wrong with her H look. He would say...do you always dress so scantily. One time, he said it doesn't look like you have any panties on under those white pants...I just told him I didn't. You should have seen the look on his face...it was priceless. Another time, he wouldn't let me get out of the car at the gas station because all these guys were standing outside. I always said well now that I am looking for a new man, I have to dress like this. You got to keep them guessing.
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"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
As much as I hate to admit it, Theo is right. You cannot control your H, but you can control your life. By detaching, you minimize his impact on you. The less impact he has, the easier it is for you to GAL.
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
I can totally understand your sadness that H might be slipping away, but everyone is right. Pulling him back will only make it worse, so acceptance and letting go is your only option. Knowing you are doing it will give you some feeling of control, which we don't have a lot of these days. Its hard to watch though.
) But, it would be funny to see his face if I acted really serious about it!! haha!! 