Now, at the risk of getting you ticked off, are you sure there wouldn’t be any value in revisiting your views on feminism and how those views affect a man, because going on what you say, the problem is with him, right? Perhaps he is somehow getting the wrong impression from you.
I'm assuming you mean my H's views on feminism, no? As I've already stated, I hardly would qualify (I think) as a feminist. But I'm not anti-feminist either. I had an interesting discussion with H last night. I think part of his views have evolved out of his dislike of his mother. He said."Well, you know where most of this mess started from - my mom. We were not allowed to express any negative feelings in our house." So no big shocker, that he was the perfect "people pleaser" most of the time and certainly didn't feel comfortable expressing his feelings with me. I also think when we had kids and I became a SAHM that he subconsciously viewed me as his mother who was also a SAHM with two kids. I think he holds a lot of anger and disgust towards his mother and was never able to get that verbalized. He always acted as though he had a great mom. It hasn't been until our reconciliation that he vocalizes his annoyance and anger at his mom. This has actually helped our own R/M very much. How's that for FOO analysis! So I think part of his attraction to an independent woman is that he sees them as the opposite of this mother (who basically fell apart when his father left her and continues to rage at his father to this day). She's a real treat. Anyways, there's some pieces of the puzzle.
