Hi Fran, Is your H someone who keeps his thoughts and feelings hidden? My H is, and I am learning that there is a lot more to the man than meets the eye. For instance, we were watching that TV show I mentioned on the other thread ( the HBO series Tell Me Like It Is). There was so much going on with that show, yet the only comment my H made was that he liked a character's house! Yesterday I realized I was hungry for some dialogue about it, from him...what did he think? What interested ( or didn't interest ) him? So I asked him about it, and he brushed me off by saying it was stupid. But then a surprising thing happened...instead of trying to get a response, or just shutting down my thoughts( which would have lead to resentment), I just started talking about the show. And to my surprise, my H joined in, and had so much to say! I was shocked by the level of thought, but didn't let on.
I wonder if there is a lot going on in your man's head, yet due to personality/character reasons he just can't come forward so readily. Finding a way to bridge the gap could be an exciting venture for you.
