Thanks a lot you guys. I'm feeling a bit better today. Oddly enough, I tend to feel better when I'm not around my W so much. I need to try and change this...

Quoting LL:
when you feel things falling back into the old patterns...remember that it takes two to continue that pattern...sometimes it takes one to do the work...just because w may slip back to some old ways doesn't mean you have to allow yourself to go there too.
I know. Admittedly, I'm the one to slip sometimes too, so I can't put all of the blame on my W. This stuff's hard!

Quoting Sue:
but then we don't want all of the old m back..so we need to be able to mix the good things from the old m with the new.
I guess I just need to find the right recipe!

Quoting J-Ro:
I equate you and wife like a lawn mower and you have just hit that place of tall grass that chokes the mower. Why is the grass tall? It's that place in the past where the dog took his dump last month and now you have to get through it.
LOL! Long time no talk, J-Ro. I'll have to pay you a visit...

Quoting Robin:
In the meantime, here are some thoughts...
Thanks...I needed that. It's just that it seemed things were moving along pretty well, but then the old patterns began to set-in. I won't tolerate it any longer. I don't have the patience (ha) for it any longer, really. I'm trying to achieve something great and I don't want to be dragged down by someone who doesn't want to make that journey with me. I will say, however, that my W has been pretty good since I told her how I felt the other night. I guess she periodically needs a little wake-up call...and I guess I have to provide that wake-up call to her as I get mine from all of you guys!

Thanks everyone...

jethro