I better not wait for H to retire before we settle because it would affect the outcome in a negative way I am sure. My big mistake from the start was negotiating with H even though I had a lawyer. At the beginning I thought our friendship was more important than our settlement. Not sure I really believed the D would happen. I know that was a mistake! Looking objectively I can see how H manipulates the situation to suit him. He has done that throughout our marriage.....I just wasn't wise enough to see it.
Can't believe my baby is now 17! Dinner went fine. It was wierd in some ways.....seemed so "normal". H even came early and fell asleep in the recliner while watching the football game. It was "normal" until everyone left... including H! At least I know we can all get together to celebrate a special occasion.
