Creating happiness

[I_Still_Love_Him]

Nicola,

I agree with Always. While you have been torn between standing for your M or not, God is setting you free from the chains that have been holding you back.

Don't worry whether H will be happy or not. It doesn't matter anymore. He may think he is and he may actually be but it won't last because that "in love" phase wears off.

How can your H pledge love to anyone? Isn't he the one who said he couldn't be in a M? He couldn't be a father? He couldn't be committed in a R? I really do feel sorry for his gf but then again, they deserve each other right now. She is so needy that she doesn't see him for who he really is. I certainly hope she is not pregnant because it really isn't fair to the child.

What matters is that YOU are happy. When you can be happy, your kids will be happy too. When you laugh and smile, you will attract other people who love to see you happy and maybe he might just be the best thing that ever happens to you.

I know that it still hurts and it's okay to feel sad and even cry if you have to. I don't believe we ever totally get over our Rs but we learn to accept them for what they brought into our lives. Accept and go with the feelings and know that it will make you that much stronger.

What a coward to send you an email and to send it knowing that you would be reading it while you're at work. He obviously has no respect for you otherwise he would've sent it when you were at home. We know why he wouldn't be able to tell you in person (guilt?) but he could've picked up the phone.

Your response was perfect. You have so much more class; more than he deserves.

Always a pleasure talking to you.

Hugs,
ISLH