hat sounds like an eminently sensible rule. How do you like cuddling on the way to the main event? If you really like it, you can just say that you'll cuddle before you have sex, and automatically filter out the guys with whom you don't want to cuddle.
Now how soon do you know whether you'd like to cuddle him? Do you think that is a more reliable indicator for you than your desire to have sex?
LOL- I think maybe my rule reads not quite the way I meant it. There are almost certainly a lot more men with whom I would cuddle than have sex. For instance, I would cuddle with Mr. Rogers if he was alive but I can't imagine doing the deed with him. Also, I can't imagine myself cuddling very much with someone who I do find sexually attractive but with whom I haven't yet had sex. I mean when you first meet someone either the sexual tension is there or it isn't. If it's there, the cuddling isn't going to be just cuddling for very long. Every time NG and I sat down on his sofa together we were having sex within about 10 minutes max. I was fully aroused within about 30 seconds of kissing Teddy. If I'm not going to have sex with a man some SERIOUS propriety needs to be maintained. Like do not let any part of your body touch any part of mine below the neck, above the knee or above the wrist. OTOH, I guess I could think about not moving around even though I'm fully aroused and then whoever I was with might not be totally clued in if they were basically totally lacking in sexual intuition. I must say this whole line of thought is making me quite cranky. I'm probably just going to end up dry humping some 50 year old guy and then asking myself "Why?"
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
