Quote: I still feel very hurt by her infidelity sometimes.
jethro, sadly I assume there will always be that sometimes...it may become less and less but I'd tend to think that there will always be a little ache in regard to it..what can we do about it??? know that our r's a better than they were before...or at least heading in that direction (god willing) that we have learned alot about ourselves and our spouses...an opportunity...they come in many forms ours unfortunately was infidelity.
I know you are having trouble with forgiveness...it is not an easy thing to give...but I think you are further along than you realize...if you did not forgive w you would not be working on the r in the fashion that you are...with the understanding that you have.
give yourself a break...your pain is your pain...yes it is a result of what she's done...but what can she do about it now so that you will forgive her?? should she have to do anymore than she is???
as I've expressed many times in regard to my own sit...I will forgive h when he forgives himself (that is a much harder task than mine...sometimes accepting forgiveness is much harder than giving it...the fact that I am willing to forgive h does not mean there aren't days when I'd like to tear him a new one...but I sit back and try to understand him and though I don't like it I do understand..
take care of you.
and the ILY's though they don't come as often as they did before all this mess...are more meaningfull when they do come. but I totally hear ya on that one...as if I'm waiting to just hear the words again..only 3 voluntary times from h since his admittance of confusion and trying to come home..back in sept.
there is a song...a sappy song...either mr big or ([censored] I hate when names jump away from me) more than words...I'll look it up for you if you don't know it.
