Its the alien spew. I have experienced similar rants. Things that used to be ok, even appreciated, are now used to show terrible we are. It is just a way for them to justify there bad choices. I accepted so much cr@p from H about all of my failings, until he implied that I was not a good mother. I lost it, and he apologized, even admitted that he said it to hurt me, "get back" at me for pointing out the things that CW does that we would have never thought were good parenting behaviors. He couldn't defend her actions, so he attacked me.
My IC said that this isn't even conscious--the WS is just trying to protect his psyche / ego from the damage that they caused themselves, and the guilt that they can't take on completely. How else can these people look themselves in the mirror each morning?
