Update: I want to Salavage my Marriage

[SuperDad]

Chris,
How is she paying for her early mid-life crisis?

I, after getting sick of my W being able to do whatever she wants on my nickel, cut off her access to all funds. I pay for all household expenses (including her car ins. and gas), but she does not have any money (of mine) to do anything on her own. I am even doing the grocery shopping since I don't want to give her any cash and she cancelled her credit card (I was a secondary card holder on it)?!

Basically, I am just treating her like my teenaged daughter (which is how she is acting). If she wants to take the kids somewhere, she has to ask for some cash. I then decide on a case by case basis. Obviously, if she says, I want to stay out all night partying, the answer whould be HE!! NO!

If nothing else, it clarifies the relationship!

Just an idea, but it sounds like you are enabling her bad behavior.

SD