Hey All. W seems to be in the R talking mood these days. Had quite a bit of that today, but I don't really feel like posting much about it. It all started when she asked me what I'd say to OM if we ever went back to that bar and I saw him. I simply said, "I'd ask why the @#$% did he do it, then tell him he's a home wrecker." I simply said that I didn't think it would be a good idea for us to go there, that it's possible I'd get very angry, and that's not the person I want to be these days.

That led to the big R talk...which I won't really talk anymore about. But earlier in the afternoon, she came up with something kind of interesting. Philosophical, so to speak, and I wanted to illicit comments.

So, we were talking about how she's an only-child and her folks pretty much did everything for her while she grew up. This, in turn, psychologically sent the message to her that she couldn't do things for herself. Thus, she's gone through life without putting a whole lot of effort into very much. But, you see, her love language is acts of service. Interesting huh? So, if I'm doing acts of service am I perpetuating the "negative-you-can't-do-it-yourself" cycle her parents started?

I, of course, significantly summarized the conversation, but my response was that for me to do the dishes validates the effort she put in around the house. However, if I put together the photo albums (a project she's been dragging her feet on...see what I mean?), then that more likely sends a negative message. I also said that it didn't matter "why" something is someone's love language, it just "is."

I told her I thought this dynamic was interesting and I'd post it to my "peeps" (that's what she calls you guys...it's short for "people"). What do you guys think? The forum is now open.

jethro