jethro, it takes a very long time sometimes for our s to understand what they have done. it took h 10 months into our piecing to realize how i must have felt. so do not lose hope that one day your wife will get it. unfortunetly i think some s figure this out but do not say anything for many reasons.
don't you wish they'd fall on their knees with tears in their eyes begging our forgiveness...ah we can dream!
i had power yoga last night and i am a bit stiff today. i love it! hard to think about this sh!t when concentrating on your flow and breathing!
time will help as will taking great care of you!!!!!!!lisa