When men cuddle with me I will pretty much always choose to cuddle back because otherwise I will feel like I am sending some cold *ss karma out into the universe. So I guess my value system states "I will not have sex with men with whom I am unwilling to cuddle."
That sounds like an eminently sensible rule. How do you like cuddling on the way to the main event? If you really like it, you can just say that you'll cuddle before you have sex, and automatically filter out the guys with whom you don't want to cuddle.
Now how soon do you know whether you'd like to cuddle him? Do you think that is a more reliable indicator for you than your desire to have sex?
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
