Puddle hit a lot of things on the head for you. I'll just say that, a while back, you were focused on 'same ol' CVA.' Seems to me it's not the same ol' CVA. You still get a little angry at times, but you recognize it quickly and apologize for it as well. I think that's still pretty new behavior for you, right? You're also moving on regarding the house, that's good to. Anything to keep you from feeling like you're in a rut. Looked at one way, you're setting yourself up for a long term sep or D. Looked at another way, you're trying to find a place for you that's comfortable and that you could take your kids to for a night or two at a time, if you wanted, so that you'll be in a better frame of mind to keep DBing (sleeping on a blow up mattress at our age isn't necessarily a good thing -- though they can be pretty comfy). Plus, it's a good investment for when your W opens her eyes and shouts 'Eureka, it's a new CVA and I love him ever so much.'
And, Puddle, were CVA to sublimate ALL of his sexual energy, he'd own Houston by the end of the year.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
Thanks for noticing. Goin on a biz trip tomorrow, another one! You all must think I travel constantly, and come to think of it, I have been out basically every other week since this started. Off next week too! Until my neck was fixed, these were absolute torture, now I am a Road Warrior.
Thanks again C
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Hey CVA, be glad W is still interested enough in you to notice when you make a mistake, however small it may be. It's more worrying when they start to comment less on these things. I bought my W flowers (expensive ones) for what would have been our anniversary last week and all she said to me was that it was appreciated but I shouldn't have, this worried me as I know she usually would have went mad about it (still not sure why I did it anyway). Anyway MIL told me that she was furious, going on and on about how I'd wasted all that money but how beautiful they were. Kinda made me think, the way she acted around me was like a DB'ing technique - hmmmm
All I'm saying is be thankful for small criticisms
Me: 34 W: 32 Together 16 yrs M: 6 yrs S: 4 D: 2 Bomb (NIL asked me to leave): 19/01/2007 My Story: The Turning Tide
Sorry everyone for not giving any advice lately, not sure I was focusing on what I needed to do and quite frankly was not getting a lot done.
I will follow up with everyone prolly while away unless I end up partying in Canada!
Mandi, u out there? U weren't on XM's Take5 "The Broads" today were u?
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Your an XM guy? I have the Sirius. Love satellite radio. Can't wait until the combine so we can all enjoy twice as much programming...like a couple hundred options isn't enough
Love the new thread! Very fitting for your theme.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
Mandi It was a girl named Mandi asking the Broads with Sherri Sherri (whatever her name is) the psychic about her marriage and her future but I think she said she was from Nashville. Just thought I might have gotten lucky and stumbled onto you talking!
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.