What I hear you saying is... "I'd like to give into my impulses, and blame it on something else..." instead of you OWNING the fact that you are a sexual woman... but a sexual woman with criteria. And I don't know that you've ever really looked at it that way before, because the man you were married to... required no criteria. kwis?
This whole criteria thing is new to you... you have not had to have a criteria for the last 19 years of your life. Sorry, honey, I don't like it either, but... discipline is the staple of life.
Discipline is to accept full responsibility for your own zoo... even when/if you make mistakes. Like... thinking you had a cow, when really you had a swan.
And when you DO make mistakes... you own them, you feel bad... you flog yourself... but then you forgive yourself... get up, wipe your azz off... and try again.
That sounds simple. It does take a bit of time, however.
