He isn't ready to come home but he thinks about it a lot. Feels like he needs to have "more experiences". I bristled at this and he added ""more experiences" could be with you."
and good for you for showing your colors there
I think he's saying that he wants to "keep having fun", and seeing if the good times can last. It's probably his "MLC-lite" double-checking if he really needs to turn his life upsidedown to have fun, or whether he can just continue on the revitalized marriage road that you are showing him.
personally, I think that one way of helping that, is UPPING your statement of "once a month" for doing something interesting. I think you should make it clear that you expect to have fun at least once a week. but once a month, he should really knock your socks off!
I'm really happy for you. I, believe it or not, had a semi similar weekend experience. but waaay scaled down. we didnt "spend all weekend together", you lucky girl. but we spend all morning and some of the afternoon saturday, out with our children. and then some other unexpected, really surprising, but positive things that I wont go into.. but still make me say "wow... hmm.." to myself.
dont sweat the "confusion" from your H.. it's early days. If he's still the same amount of confused after a month from now, then whap him over the head or something, but otherwise, I'd say just be happy that you are Doing Great
oh, PS: speaking of "spending all weekend together"... my W agreed to let me book a family weekend mini-trip nearby to us. Two nights with us and our children.. and the children get a separate room.
Unfortunately, that doesnt mean a turning point, by itself... but the last two family trips we've had since she moved out, were very enjoyable, so I'm really looking forward to it
Last edited by Dom R; 09/17/0711:02 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
