Now what? Wait it out?

[Tara_9]

Thanks TAL. I guess she's more immature than I ever thought her capable of. Guess that's why she's taken up with someone 11 years younger than me (me: 38; her: 36; OP: 27). It also explains her trying to relive her glory days of her early 20s in the weeks prior to her leaving.

She texted me numerous times today for various reasons. I responded twice to direct questions. Her first text was "We need to talk. Are you up to it?" I expect that she intended to tell me that she was officially seeing the OP, so she hasn't yet read the e-mail I sent telling her I know all about it and how long it's been going on and that she's lied to me and I know it. I told her I was not up to talking, and she should read her e-mail. In it, I told her to let me know when she'd be able to treat me like someone she respects and then we would talk when I was ready.

The advice from all seems to be consistent- GAL, GAL, GAL. And I'm doing that...it's just those pesky hours between 10:00 PM and 8:00 AM when sleeping should happen where my mind really goes wild, knowing where she is and with whom.

I posted this in the newcomers section, but realize that this forum may be more appropriate: What happens in the case where the new found soulmate doesn't exactly reciprocate the feelings of the cheating partner? What if they are just there because they like the attention, but the writing's on the wall that they are in it for the short term? I'm not pinning hopes on this at all--my question is more, what happens to the cheating partner when they realize that the person they chose to leave for in turn rejects them? Is there an MO? The cheaters all seem to operate from the same script from what I can see, but I'm curious to hear from people what happened to them when their S cheated, said it was over for good, then wound up rejected themselves. What happened next? I used to believe in karma, but I'm not so sure I do anymore. Not just in situations in my life, but in so many situations I've seen, the "good" one always loses, and the "bad" one always wins. I guess I'm just looking for some kind of "what goes around, comes around" stories, if anyone has any. And did the cheating spouse attempt to come back to the marriage. Maybe I'm being a bit sadistic. But she's texted me 8 times today (only 2 of which I responded to), and I'm ticked at being so nice and swallowing my hurt and anger and answering so civilly (though coolly)when I really want to reach through the phone and throttle her. Which is why I post here.