What is wrong with dating/fcking while you look for The One? You already know what you are looking for in a man; uh huh, I saw your list... kind of like Santa Claus. And if you don't date a bit, how are you going to find out if he meets any of the criteria?
And if for some reason you think the person might have the qualities on Your List... then you are going to have to show a bit of discipline (which you get from your Swan, btw. Cows don't give a sh!t one way or the other), and NOT have hot monkey sex before you make your initial assessment. It can usually be done within 5 dates.
