Mixed signals - catfan's continual saga part???

[FaithfulH]

Catfan,

You sound like you are in a great place...and I thoroughly enjoyed reading your thread....cause I see lots of signs that parallel my own sitch....just a few months behind. Here's what I see in common:

• You are getting stronger by the day...as I was
• You still have doubts/questions about your W and her commitment...I did too
• Your W is sending lots of mixed signals but the balance of good to bad is shifting noticably to the good...like mine was
• Yet you STILL have doubts at times on whether you will ever reconcile...as did I

If I am correct (and you keep focused on detaching, GAL, etc)...your W is right around the corner from jumping back into reconcilation/restoration with both feet.

My W and I are almost 4 months into our reconciliation and it is UTTERLY AMAZING (and that is an understatement). Here's what I know now looking back on my sitch (with the benefit of my W filling in a lot of blanks):

• We NEVER see clearly what is going on in our sitch...but, we see CLEARER as time goes on
• It is nearly impossible to keep the "fog" of emotion from tainting our view
• We often "chalk up" our spouses actions to negative motives...when none exist. (Corollary: they do the same to us!)
• Time and Space is the greatest gift we can give our spouses during these trials...and it is a gift to us as well (even though it doesn't seem like it at the time). My W told me last week, I needed to separate from you to get my head together. Wow, I thought it was all about me!

A funny story: this weekend my W and I were out on a "date" and we stopped in Crate and Barrel to pick up some wine glasses (for our new wine tasting hobby we enjoy together)...we chatted with the clerk for quite awhile and near the end she said, "I have to tell you that you seem so happy together....like you REALLY enjoy doing things together"...we both smiled and said, "You're right, we do!" Little did she know...my W only withdrew the divorce action last week!

Catfan - Times like these are in your future...I'm praying for that!