Plank removed from eye, too late for WAW? 5

[waw1978]

There is nothing at all wrong with Ikea. But I had a bunch of odds and ends, nothing really permanent. I was keeping my place minimally furnished...bare bones really cause I still had a lot of hope that I would be returning to my home soon. But with this recent chain of events, and after contemplating spending so much on a TV I decided I needed a real living room set and a real dining room table & chairs to feel at home. I was using the two person table from my college apt...and very sparse furniture. Like I said one of my brothers pals cleaned out his garage and hooked me up with a few things but the place still seemed kind of empty.

Basically everything I want from my home with H he has "laid claim to" for the time being. I def have rights and when he comes home from his most recent bus trip many of my personal things (pots pans appliances linens...will all be gone)but now I have a the new furniture and its like a fresh start.

Neither of us really wants to sell the house. The market in Boston is very depressed right now and we will basically walk away with nothing. If we can wait a year or so then we will break even and maybe have a few dollars each after the debts are paid.

AS for paying the mortgage My name is on the mortgage and the deed so I am on the line for payments whether I live there on not, don't want to f-up my credit as I really want to buy something smaller if things cannot be worked out. Daycare here is really expensive but once D goes to kindergarten next year H will be able to buy me out and afford the house on his own.

Its my Dad's duplex so I am just paying the utilities. Which is still a stretch after my half of the mortgage and daycare. Oh well. I am sure some of you are in this boat as well. There is no easy answer and I am not out to "screw" him or our credit ratings. SInce I work in financial services I see far too many people (mostly women) whose spouse walks away and ruins both of there credit scores. Very hard to dig out from that no matter what...it lingers around forever!