I think I am the one trying to save things and he has just given up
As I've said all along, i think you've always been the one wanting to save your M. Your H, thus far, is/was OK with having a M and willing to take you back into a R but without having to do anything on his end to acknowledge that R and M was an unhappy one for you. That's not fair to you. You've tried, and are trying, don't get down on yourself.
I think Steel, and others before, are onto something in that your H is responding defensively and still trying to control the situation. As we keep saying, hopefully he'll wake up.
If he's moving forward with the separation, it's time for him to come to grips with the finances. Don't quite get the you paying for the house that he's living in. That doesn't seem fair. If he can't afford to live there, perhaps it's time to sell. This man sounds like he still wants to be with you, but is just so damn stubborn he doesn't know how to do it.
Regarding your D, it's his time, I'd let it go other than mentioning that if he's going to go out (whatever he's doing and you don't have to ask), that you'd like the chance to spend time with your D if he has plans.
HD is nice. It's actually even nicer once you get it home . . .
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
