WAW, seems like he is heading the opposite direction of what you want. I am sorry about that, but there is always that chance he will turn around :).
As far as him dropping of D at sitter while he goes out, maybe you can suggest to him that you would prefer that he left her with you instead. Reassure him that it is no big deal for him to go do his thing, but you would feel more at ease if she was with you and not a sitter.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
I am sorry about that, but there is always that chance he will turn around :).