What is reasonable and what is not?

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I have no idea what to do. He would probably lie at first, then get defensive and tell me that he and I are not married and he can do what he wants. All signs and behaviors point to us working this out. Why does he keep this door open? I know they have been close for about a year (pretty much the entire year he and I were separated) and from her texts I gather she is very needy.

She knows he spends alot of time with me. Why does she still want to be around? Why is she clinging to a man who is having a child with his ex wife?

I am going to sit on this today and think. We are supposed to go out of town this weekend together.

Thanks for letting me ramble and helping me. I can no longer tell many of my friends as they don't understand and think he is the biggest jerk.