hmmm, wonder if the MLC is still there, or he feels so pressured by the financial problems that he hasn't given space in his heart to love. My C put it in a way I could understand when I told him how my H had no feelings for me but he could feel compassion for the op's pain "right now, you represent reality (responsabilities, home, bills, etc) and he's having a hard time coming back to that realm.

This are just some ideas which could be way off base. Maybe he's fooling himself by looking for that "chemistry" that occurs when Rs are fresh and there are no kids/home/bills, etc.

Yet again you must live one day at a time mama, that's how I cope with my sitch now.

Aud, you sweety, you have been such an example to me, and I have copied many of your posts to keep my sanity many times \:\)

Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2

30something
2kids
survivor of S, MLC, A, D
I have peace in my heart, at last.