Guys,

Thanks...that's the crux.

Will it help or hurt?

Dunno.

As it stands, my wife is still speaking to him, though it seems the relationship is waning.

She wants a separation 12-18 months down the line.

Truthfully, if we could afford two households now -- I'd file for D and expose the guy.

With this 12-18 months wierdness....I dont know.