Just stopping in to say that I'm so proud of you!! Don't take that as a condesending thing, it isn't. I just am!

I also want to touch on something that you said. You said that you wanted people to benefit from the knowledge that some will go through divorce even though they do it right and the person filing doesn't seem to want it. I'm sure my ex-fiance would say he fit into that category. Unfortunately, there are times when no matter what you do it just isn't going to work. Hopefully those times are rare, but they happen. And since I didn't have any hard feelings, I was as kind as I could be while ending it and probably gave him some false hope at times - unintentionally.

You also said that you don't want people living with false hope as long as you have. But Pam, there is nothing false about YOUR hope. Even if he decides to chuck this marriage, you have to have a relationship with him forever. When the boys are grown, they will get married and their babies will have baptisms and yadda yadda yadda. So even if it does go to hell in a handbasket, the hope isn't dead or false. Your hopes MIGHT just have to modify a little bit. And remember, it wasn't until my hope left the building that my H's hope was able to point in my direction! Anything can happen. Anything.

"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere." --Agnes Repplier, writer and historian