The contact between he and I is really positive. If I wouldn't snoop and find things, then it would be perfect. Sounds strange huh? Maybe I should stop snooping and pretend like he is not talking with OW still.
Yesterday he had gone to his own house for a few hours to do some laundry and get some things done before the work week. He had been here at my house since Friday. He was supposed to come back at 6:30. About that time he sent me a text saying he would be here in 30 minutes. OK, no problem. I had a funny feeling so I drove by his house and his truck was not there. He ended showing up at 7:45.
When he was in the shower I looked at his phone. There was some contact with OW and he was responding. I guess her dad is dying (sorry, I have no sympathy) and she was upset. He said, 'sorry sweety'. She then asked if he could come up and check the oil in her truck!! WTF! That was at 6:30.
I think he went there to see her and check the oil. I don't think anyting physical happened as there wasn't much time, but he did go I believe.
Do I confront? I can say someone saw him going out to OW's place. I have no idea. What is the connection here? Why does he still want that contact? Its like he lives this double life....one with me and one with her.
I need help here guys. My gut instict is to confront in anger and give ulitmatums that obviously are not working.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
