Sugar, I agree with CAPS, this goes beyond just not wanting to deal with him and face his ickiness...
There's something very wrong with Puff, beyond alien MLC, and you can't wrap your brain around it, nor should you. But he could well be into something criminal, illegal, physically harmful, mind altering. The kinds of things that yield a certain desperation that alters the way a person behaves and causes them to breach normal boundaries. It can also bring other people into the equation that care not one wit about you or the kids.
I am not trying to scare you, but this is not a time to avoid or say, I just want him to go away.
You and the kids could well be in danger. At a minimum, he is compromising their financial security.
You need to tell your lawyer everything, document everything. You also need to tell your family everything. Last week's airing out was good, but you can't just leave it there. Protection comes from having things out in the light of day...everyone close to you needs to know everything that is going on at this point.
This divorce thing has been puttering along long enough; it's time to put the pedal to the floor, you need some money, you need court ordered and monitored support, you need court ordered and monitored visitation. There needs to be some definition and locking in of what assets and income there is at a fixed point in time.
This is your and your kids future you are dealing with.
