I am glad your son is safe. I know it was hard for him, but in a way this was good for him in the long run. The next visit will be much shorter.
Your H got a good dose of reality this weekend. I'm sure S2's crying was not pleasant for H or OW, and no amount of bribery will matter to a child who wants his mother. Poor H. Poor, poor OW.
Good that you left the new toys. Don't be too judgemental about that--he needed some toys whether he was at grandpa's house or elsewhere. The rule is, any toys he gets with daddy, stay with daddy.
As for filing, people get confused about "legal separation." Some people do get a Judgment of Separate Maintenance instead of a Judgment of Divorce. It is every bit as final, but the only difference is, neither of you can re-marry.
What most people are talking about is a Temporary Order. You typically file this at the same time you file your Complaint for Divorce. Whether or not you can ask for a Temporary Order without a Complaint for Divorce is something you'll have to ask your lawyer.
Oh, and don't forget to put that ladder away. Now that S2 has been on it, he might use it again.
