It seems like your situation and mine are similar.
Your husband will continue this because there are no consequences for his actions. You open up, share, tell him you love him, but, golly he still wants the OW, too.
I emailed you my thoughts.
He doesn't think he'll lose you -- you'll always be there.
Hope pointed out that something has got to change.
Again I think this might be the drill.
1. Continue GAL.
2. No sex with him as long as OW is in picture.
3. Tell him, "You know I love you and want us to be happy and connected, I don't think this is going to happen while you are still with OW. Since you are not ending all contact with her, from this point forward I'm not investing in our relationship anymore. I'm not pursuing you. I'm not going to engage you emotionally. I'm done trying. I'm letting you go. I need to move on with my life, with or without you. The clock is ticking.
4. Set up a schedule for childcare that gives you at least 2 nights out a week. You use every night to go out for yourself.
5. Start making plans with for you and your daughter, without your husband.
6. Try this for 1-2 months. It's going dark while he's at home. Let him taste your absence.
7. AT the end of 1-2 months if he's still with OW. Write him a letter with an ultimatum. He ends it with OW or you divorce him. Give him 1 week to answer.
8. If he refuses to choose, file for divorce. The filing may change his mind. It may not.
9. If he's OK with the divorce -- time to stop keeping his dirty little secret. Tell your church, his family, your family.
