spoke to my solicitor this morning to arrange a meeting with her, she says xh wants to offer me a lump sum of money without the need to go through the courts, the amount he is offering is very minimal and bearing in mind that if I accepted I would then have all the legal proceedings and solicitors etc to pay out of it, and also the fact that he ain't sent in a dime over the last two years to feed and clothe, keep warm and clean his son, I think he can shove his peanuts that he is offering, it amounts to around 10% of what he would get for this place, what amout all the lolly he took off with, I don't think I will accept but I will wait and see what my solicitor thinks.
oh sorry braveheart, I forgot to thank you and truelove for your replies, I don't see him having a change of attitude towards us as he doesn't get in touch any more to either of us, and quite frankly I don't want him to, maybe him offering us a lump sum is just a tad of the guilt he is feeling, after all he expected us to go with nothing.
He feels no guilt for what he's done or is doing currently. The lump sum was done (hopefully) to get you to accept and ride off into the sunset, never to be heard again.
Mandy, I wouldn't accept the offer. Your son deserves better than this pittance. Go for what you feel is right that will keep your son living comfortably. Make sure that he can send the check to the bank or a solicitor so that you don't have to deal w/him all of the time about late payments, etc.
Stick to your guns on this one.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Snodderley, thanks for your reply and yes I will stick with my guns, I intend going for whatever I can get for my son, to hell with him he isn't a father anymore, what father can just turn off and walk away from their offspring, something that I will never be able to get my head around.
Hi Mandyloo, I hope you are fine. - You got some good advice from Snodderly.
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yes I will stick with my guns, I intend going for whatever I can get for my son,
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to hell with him he isn't a father anymore, what father can just turn off and walk away from their offspring, something that I will never be able to get my head around.
just back from my solicitor, she told me that his solicitor has phoned her 3 times this week so they are getting twitchy. he as told his solicitor that the money he left here with has gone, he can't afford to pay the mortgage on this place anymore and last but not least he doesn't think he will be able to pay his solicitor at the end of all this. so it appears he has partied until the money has run out and now he wants to sell this place as he is rock bottom on money and he is offering me 10% of the selling price for this place minus expenses. see how long his new wife sticks around now that he is potless
just an update to say that xh and i were supposed to be in court tomorrow, this time it is me that is filing against him under the children's act, on the grounds that he shouldn't put his child out on the streets and that he should have been paying support to his child. well my solicitor called me yesterday and said it has been withdrawn from court for two weeks as apparently xh's solicitor didn't receive the papers in time to serve xh before going to court. I think they are just pulling strings in the hope that I will accept his offer and then I can't put my case in, one thing that will happen is if my case goes in before the next hearing for his case, his case gets put on hold until mine is sorted. Also my barrister has said she could tell that xh wasn't happy the way the hearing went last time and it now appears that he doesn't want to go back to the courts, ie that is why he is offering a lump sum. I don't really know what to think, he set the ball rolling with the courts and now he wants to settle out of court, I still have nowhere to move to and it is all getting to be a bit of a pain right now, all we want to do that is son and I is move out and move on, why can't he see that and stop messing about with the courts. I know for a fact and so does my solicitor that the papers were served in the time limit stated.
