Thanks guys, that does help. Lissie, I talked to Jody, one of the DB coaches, the other day and she suggested somethig to me that might help you. DR talks about thinking about what we're about to do or say in terms of moving us closer to or further from our goals. Jody suggested a slightly different approach, she said think about "will this make me sexy to (fill in blank)". Sounds like you got the friends thing down, maybe you need to take a look at punching up the sexy factor a little.
NGU, I agree it's good to be her friend but sometimes it's really tough to do that AND be upbeat. The past couple of weeks, she's been frequently mentioning things she's doing or buying or planning now that we're seperated and her resources and plans are hers alone. That hurts and I since I can't muster enthusiam about those things, I generally don't say anything at all. I like that she confides in me as a friend but as her H, I can't get excited about her removing me from her life like that.
