NG, you may well be right about showing vulnerability.

H has always been drawn to women w/major problems. Said I was together and that was why he was drawn to me.

But I wonder if the "helping" is also a control thing.

I think H feels very inadequate at this point in his career. So my thought is: will he be able to recognize his career disappointments and try to DO soemthing about them?

Or does he need a worshipful groupie so badly that this is what he really wants?


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D