just a quickie to say we are still here, went away for the weekend last week and really enjoyed it, all is quiet once again but then again it usually goes quiet before the next storm. I went to my lawyers last week and we are now serving xh with some papers and sending him a court date, I would think that this will really get his back up seen as though I have now decided to play him at his own game. hard lines for him I say I will not go down without at least fighting for what I can for my son. wonder if he will be as shocked as I was when he served me with notice to get out. I still think it is all so sad and especially the fact that he doesn't even try contacting his kid, what a total tool.
Mandy, Until he has had the time to really focus on what's he's done, he'll continue to perk. As long as you and your son are still living in his house and haven't relocated, this will be a thorn in his side and he'll continue to focus on this situation. The only time that they really focus is when there's absolutely nothing left to fight over, i.e., when the dust settles.
You can be sure that he acts out w/everyone he comes in contact w. No one is special in his company not to receive some of his anger and unusual behavior. People just assume that he's having a bad day or someone is giving him a hard time. The new chick, well...she's going to have her eyes open up wide very soon. He can't play the victim for too much longer and she not begin to put two and two together. He can't continue to hide his behavior from her for very long.
So, let him go and wish him the best. You don't want this man in you life like he is right now. Be thankful that she's got to put up w/his nonsense for awhile. Eventually, he will realize what he's done. Whether he does anything about it, that's anyone's guess at this time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi mandyloo, I am sorry for what you are still going through. I hope your action will do any good, and you will get your lawful right. Good luck. Take care.
Well after taking me to the courts, something that I have never had to do in my life, I served xh with my claim under the childrens act, ie my solicitor says we should at least try and claim something from him for the sake of my son, cannot believe that he wants to negotiate a settlement without the need to go to expensive courts etc. wtf he started the whole damn business, he lit the touch paper to drag it through the courts, now he doesn't want to do it that way, I knew he didn't feel comfortable when we were there that day, either he's lost his bottle or he fears losing a good part of the home his son lives in. whatever it is making him think about what he is doing.
Mandyloo, the reason why he is "rethinking" his position is because his lawyer probably told him that if you took him to court, you would take his sorry arse to the cleaners! Don't let up on him, he will try to work on your sympathies to save himself.
Braveheart thanks for your reply, yes I am aware of why he is wanting to negotiate a settlement, yes over here he could stand to lose a lot if my claim wins, but it wasn't me that said we couldn't be adults and discuss this as parents should do you know all grown up and amicable, it was he that decided he was the big guy, not to talk and communicate with son and I, it was him that decided he wanted to be the big hitter and drag it through the courts, I have come so far in this now and I intend dragging what I can from him and not for my sake but for my son's sake, whatever we get will be compensation for him not supporting his child through this, he still hasn't paid a penny for his son's food or clothes or anything, I shall stick it out and go for what I can, to hell with him he wont be getting any sympathies from me.
Mandy, for the first time in you stich, you have got him on the ropes. Don't let him off! He will probably have a change in attitude, being nicer to you and what not. Don't fall for it! He is only trying to manipulate you into getting what he wants. Stick with it girl!
