I'm glad I was able to help you. Like you, I have spent an enormous amt of time kicking myself, and thinking that if my H only knew how much I'd changed, he'd come back and we'd have a great marriage, blah blah blah.
But what I forgot to factor into the equation was him: his choices, his thoughts, his growth (or lack thereof). Yes, I have changed and grown, but I'm still basically the same person, which I think is a good thing. Then again, so is he, and I really don't see how we could NOT end up in the same negative pattern again unless he follows the same path I did. And he does have the "right" to choose not to, as much as that sucks, lol!
I'm glad you're doing better.
~Nicola
Life isn't about finding yourself; it's about creating yourself My thread: Trusting God's Plan
