I wouldn't confront Xh right now either since the contact is positive as far as you and he go, and not good with OW. But I think you need to keep things into perspective. You do have the upper hand. You are divorced and you have shown him you do not need him, so please try not to appear needy and act as if you can do what ever with your life to make you happy with or without H.
it sounds very hopeful though great!
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
