What is reasonable and what is not?

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Things have actually been pretty good the past few days or so. We have had some really good times. He is so excited about this baby, our future, and even talks like we will have one. He spends alot of time here with me and stays the night pretty much every night we don't have our kids.

Had one glitch last night and I didn't mention anything. I haven't snooped on his phone in awhile, I did last night. I found that OW was sending texts "Please come over, I am dying for you". YUCK. He replied with "I can't, I am with **(me) now". OW then replied with "Can't you just say you don't feel good and leave later?" He never responded. I know he hasn't seen her. There has been no time, but it almost seems like he keeps that contact open for some sort of ego stroke or back up plan.

I caught her this morning driving by his house and then by mine. She is obviously desperate. I wish so bad she would just fade away. He and I have been out and about publicly at soccer games, shopping, driving etc. where her friends and the rest of the world has seen us so its not like he's hiding us.

I am not confronting him about the text messages. I can't reveal how I found out, but I am still watching. His actions show he is with me, but she is still lurking.