LFL since you are committed to staying in the marriage for your kids (which I personally believe is the right thing but that's my own opinion), why not give yourself permission to really evaluate everything else in your life (besides your relationship with your H). Are all your relationships with friends and family as good as you want? What about work? Anything more or less you can do there? What about hobbies and outside interests? What ARE your passions????
FYI: I think that Mojo will end up with a better husband. I think that fearless moved up. Still the statistics are not in your favor.
Raven is an amazing man!! But (ironically?) we would have never found each other or connected the way we did if we hadn't been the Left Behind Spouses. Neither one of us wanted our marriages to end and fought long and hard to prevent their ends. And as I've said before Raven and I don't play that game of "are you happier now?" I can't say that I am "glad" my marriage ended because my XH was a great guy and we had many amazing times. I can say I am glad I used what I learned through my fight to save my marriage to make sure that the next man I chose had a much better grip on understanding happiness and owning his own happiness.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
