My friend's mother's funeral is today. I didn't want to keep calling and bothering her yesterday (she was so busy with family), but apparently my H did...he emailed me the details this morning and asked that I go to the afternoon service, he would go to the evening after dropping the kids with me. I should have gone to the church...
This is H's email:
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the services for (bff)'s mom are this afternoon and tonight. i would appreciate it if you could go between 2 and 4. i will drop off the kids betwen 6 and 7 so i can go between 7 and 8. the funeral home is on main street. i'm sure you have this info already but i just wanted to be sure.
i hope you reconsider the camera. you have three in the house. i don't want the $800 one i gave to you as a gift or the one we gave S. i bought the little one for general use and don't think i am being unreasonable in asking for it. you could use Ss for everyday stuff and the d50 for your art. as for your coment that you have aked for things that i have not given to you, all i come up with is the computer. if that is what you meant, i should have one this week and be able to copy the kids games so they can play them on both. other than that you have everything else i own. you will notice that i only put $600 in your account this week. i used the other $50 for the clothes for the kids. the amount of money i give you is supposed to cover all the kids needs. there should be plenty left over every month. i'll check my e-mail before i bring the kids back to make sure you will be there.
I wasn't trying to be petty about the camera. And it was a gift to me. But in the end, is it better to be right? I'm not sure what holding out on the camera would do right now, and I can use the other one.
The stupid tv and computer were the things that were taken that I asked for back, for the kids, not me. He ended up buying another tv for himself (after we traded), anyway, as the one that I got at a garage sale wouldn't hook up to his dvd player.
I also wasn't trying to stiff him for the $ for the kids' clothes--I never even had a chance to acknowledge the purchases before he wrote this.
I guess there will be things that happen in this mess that are bound to piss him off. Again, another foreign concept to me to leave it alone, when for so long we "never went to bed angry." Well, I guess that was only me, looking back. He just sucked it in and let resentment grow. At least he is letting it out, now.
I want to de-escalate the anger and tension, but also not seem to be ready to roll on everything. Any advice?
