Thank you ALL so much for your help it is so comforting to know that other people are or have been in the same situation. I really cant thank you all enough for all of your help I really really appreciate it. My husband told me friday night that he has been seeing someone and since then I have taken everyones advice and just backed off. I dont pursue him any more and I dont beg or cry in front of him (just when he's not around). I'm praying that he will change his mind about D and love me again. I have a question that I hope someone can answer or give a little advice. My question is when a H starts seeing someone else while he is still married does he feel bad or guilty? I mean does it bother them at all or do they just feel that because they dont love w anymore and are heading for D that's it's just part of moving on. I would really appreciate any answers that anyone has and thanks agin EVERYONE for your help I really cant thank you all enough for caring and helping.