PS I agree about a series of 'bottoms' It also makes sense when you read the postings on Smurf's Gems of reconciliation thread. The reconnection process isn't staightforward either - and I think they go along together. They get pockets of reality, and attempt to come back, and as they 'hit bottom' a series of times, reality comes in more and more strongly.
I see MLC as, in part, a retreat from an uncomfortable reality - the need to fix themselves, the need to come to terms with mortality, with not being as successful in their careers, as parents, etc etc.
I also see that we the LBS have a 'crisis' ourselves - of our own identity and our role as parent [often effectively single parenting for a longish period] and our role in our relationships. We also have to face an uncomfortable reality, largely not of our own making, but that doesn't mean we don't have to deal with the situation as it is, and not as we would like it to be!
