I guess we never really know when they hit bottom. In fact, I'm beginning to think they need to hit a series of bottoms before they really bottom out, if that makes sense. I remember YR saying that several times... that she thought her H had hit bottom, but he hadn't.

I though my H hit bottom a few times, but I know that he needs to crash much harder and further for him to really hit bottom.

Your H has a lot of problems. But now he is taking a good hard look at himself. This is painful for him. But once he goes throug this pain, he has the ability to find happiness.

I hope this trip will be good for him.

You're doing great!


Married 9 years
Kids 5 and 6
Bomb 2006
H back and forth for a year
M now back on track